I have relationship problems. I’m 21 years old and believed to found the love love of my live. I have been seeing this guy that I really adore for a long time a little over a year and half. The only thing wrong about our relationship was that he lived so far away however we did mange to keep in touch and keep our relationship alive.
Our relationship was going fine we were both really serious about each other and talked about marriage and having children together. Nothing was wrong with our relationship until one day when my boyfriend came to visit me for a month. I was soo excited about seeing him and couldn’t wait.
While he was here things between us became “weird” and things weren’t the same. Until one night before me and him were going to go out he called me to break it off. I was so shocked about what I heard, I couldn’t believe it was him. I acted as if I was fine with everything but I wasn’t. I really thought I was going to grow old with this man and have children the whole 9 yards.
A few days after he called me I found out that he and my BEST FRIEND were “loosely together”. I couln’d believe that my BEST friend was getting with my boyfriend who justed dumped me for no reason. Well a lot time has passed since that all happened, actually its been almost a year. I barely talk to him anymore and I never talk to my ex Best friend.
My problem is that I can’t get over him. He was my first true love. He has caused me so much pain during this passed year with our realationship and causing me to lose my best friend over him. I hate him so much for what he did but I still love him. I guess I’m still liveing in a fairytale and do believe that everything will work out perfect.
Should I still be loving him and try to make things work out? Should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just move on with my life and try to forget the “love of my life”? — Emma
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Emma, dating is a time to test the relationship potential between two people. Dating someone does not automatically guarantee that they will become your lifelong mate. It doesn’t matter how much you may love someone, they have to love you the same way for the relationship to continue. Dating puts love to the test.
The two of you were fine as long as you weren’t together 24/7 but your relationship couldn’t survive the togetherness. Better to learn it before getting married because breaking up is a heck of a lot easier (no matter how despondent you feel) than getting a divorce.
It’s too bad that your best friend and your ex got together so quickly; unfortunately, that’s something that also happens and it doesn’t mean it’s wrong, just that it’s painful for the person who has been cut out of the relationship.
There is nothing for you to hold on to. He is gone. He is no longer a part of the relationship because there is no relationship. Move on and stop believing in fairy tales. They make good reading but they’re not real life. — Queenie