I need your help. I have been going out with this guy for five months now. He is a very nice person, he treats me well, and we have fun together.


The main problem is recently he lied to me. We were supposed to meet, but he did not appear. He claimed he was carjacked. He has keys to my house, so he went and took money and pretended the carjackers did it.

I want to forgive him but I’m not sure what to do. He asked for forgiveness and promised that this incident will never be repeated. Can I trust him again?

Benita

Benita, he is a liar and a thief. Why would you believe this man when he promises not to do it again and asks for forgiveness?

This is like Aesop’s fable of the scorpion and the frog. When the two met on the bank of a river, the scorpion asked the frog for a piggyback ride across the stream. “How do I know you won’t sting me?” said the frog. “Because if I do,” replied the scorpion, ” I will die too. I cannot swim.”

This seemed to make sense to the frog. Midway across the stream the scorpion stung the frog. “Why?” moaned the frog. “Because I can’t help myself,” replied the scorpion. “It’s my nature.”

Benita, leave forgiveness to a higher power. You don’t need to be this man’s frog.

Wayne