I have been seeing someone for seven weeks. I have little experience dating, but I am mature and have lots of common sense for someone almost 25. My boyfriend is 30 and experienced. He also insists on paying for everything.


I want to wait to have intercourse with the right person, even if that means waiting until I marry. He understands and respects this, but on two occasions we got pretty intimate and I’m afraid next time we will go too far. He is hard to talk to, and I do not want to always be the one to bring up the subject. I think I was taken by the fact that he asked me out and is a nice guy.

I am torn between being with him and being alone. If I gave myself advice, I’d say forget it, but I’m trying to give him a chance. Relationships are a two way street, and I don’t want to be unfair.

Jocelyn

Jocelyn, you are looking at this relationship as a choice between this man and nothing. That would only be the case if you two were marooned on a desert island.

Even though he knows how you feel about intimacy, you have twice gone farther than you want. If you can’t communicate, it’s time to put on the brakes. If you go too far, you will force yourself to believe he is the right person, even as you know he is not.

Wayne