Pat GaudetteI’m Pat Gaudette, the founder of Friends and Lovers the Relationships Guide as well as The Midlife Club. I was also the Divorce Support Guide for About.com for over nine years.

I’ve been divorced twice and happily married to my third husband since 1995. When I married the first time I expected to be married for my lifetime, but some things aren’t acceptable regardless of the marriage vows.

After my second marriage ended in divorce in 1992, I turned my business focus to relationship issues with an emphasis on dating, divorce, and midlife crisis, because all were major factors in my personal growth.

I believe there’s a rhyme and reason for most relationship endings, whether it’s a spouse who leaves home or an employer who decides your services are no longer necessary. As traumatic as these may be, they also give us the opportunity to develop resources within ourselves that will help us to become even stronger in the face of future adversity.

I also believe the perfect revenge when a relationship ends is to survive and thrive instead of wasting time on the what if’s and if only’s of the past.

If you’re going through a divorce or are considering a divorce, be sure to visit my Divorce Support section. I’m not a trained professional; I speak from life experience. Before making life-changing decisions, consider all of your options and enlist the services of professionals if necessary.

If you have a relationship problem you'd like my opinion about, please type it in the block below and I'll do my best to respond on my Divorce blog as quickly as I can. Disclaimer: I'm not a trained professional and my opinion about your situation will be just that, only my opinion. Questions may be edited as necessary and any that are inappropriate will be ignored.

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