Advice at FRIENDS & Lovers

One of the scariest parts of being divorced is getting back into the dating scene. How the heck do you meet people? People who are decent? People you can trust? People who won’t think you’re a loser because you’ve had a marriage fail? Or two? Continue reading →

From one of my articles on dating: “Looking single helps. I was speaking to a group of business people and asked them to hold up their hands if they were single and available. The number of raised hands surprised everyone in the room. I then told them to remove every ring off their left hand if they were serious about being identified as a single. Most people look immediately at the ring finger and if a ring looks even remotely like a wedding set or a band, they assume the person is married. If you don’t want to miss a dating opportunity, dump the rings!” Continue reading →

She wants a commitment from her boyfriend who she says is “skittish” about committing to their relationship. There’s just one problem: she is separated and just starting the legal process of divorce. Continue reading →

The way children respond to divorce will be as varied as the participants and the circumstances. No one likes divorce, but some people (and children) are more mature handling it than others. In some cases, the children may welcome the fact that violence, abuse, and anger (if these were ingredients of the marriage) are no longer a part of their daily life. Continue reading →

Divorced men don’t have to limit themselves to one girlfriend at a time and some men don’t. Divorced women, too, are under no obligation to date just one man at a time. Continue reading →

Ex-wives can pose special problems, particularly if they are the ones who wanted the divorce. “I think if Jack had been the one to leave, if it had been his decision and his choice, everything would be different,” Kerry says. Continue reading →

A man’s daughter can be your biggest ally in the relationship you have with her father. Daughters can also be threats or perceived as threats to a relationship. Continue reading →

She’s newly divorced, he’s in a bad marriage but concerned what divorce would do to his 3-year old son. They have been dating platonically for a couple months, are in love, and feel that they are soul mates. She wonders if she should wait for him to get a divorce. Continue reading →

Her new boyfriend is in the final stages of a very nasty divorce. She wants tips on how to be supportive without overwhelming him. Continue reading →

He’s recently divorced after 23 years of marriage. He is emotionally involved with a woman who is married but “planning to do something soon.” He wonders if he should continue pursuing her considering the circumstances. Continue reading →

She’s in her mid-50s and divorced after her husband left her for another woman. She wants to get married again but can’t seem to meet people she would like to date. Continue reading →

She says the friendship she’s had with a newly divorced father of two small children is getting more serious. She’s been checked out by the ex-wife and met the children once. He wants her to come home with him and spend the night (so far they haven’t been intimate). Continue reading →

Marrying a divorced person can be hazardous if you’re not prepared to accept all the “extras” they bring with them. Divorce does not wipe out a person’s history in the same manner that reformatting a computer’s hard drive deletes old programs. Continue reading →

He wrote to say he’s in the process of a divorce that he really doesn’t want because he still loves his wife. At the same time, after more than eight months of separation, he has now met someone he’d like to date. He wonders whether he should start looking out for his needs or continue hoping his wife will come back. Continue reading →

Her divorce is just starting and her husband is living with the “other woman.” She’s looking for love in all the wrong places, and far too soon. She said: “I am having all these lustful thoughts about some of the men I work with. There about 8 men at work that I feel like if I could get one in the conference room for just a few minutes this fire would go out.” Continue reading →