Advice at FRIENDS & Lovers

If my husband has cheated would it be wrong for me to see someone, if I have left him and seeking a divorce.

Until you’re legally divorced, you’re legally married. So, is it wrong for a married woman to “see… Continue reading →

I have been seeing a guy that ive known for years as a friend, we had both had pretty bad experiences prior to our getting together, we have found that we enjoy spending time together and there is and always has been an attraction between us that we had never acted on untill now. Continue reading →

I hadn’t dated much when I got married the first time and coming out of a long-term marriage, I really wasn’t too savvy when I dove into the dating pool. Luckily, on my first dive I met Mr. Right. Continue reading →

For anyone who has been married a long time, getting back into dating mode once the divorce is legally over can be extremely confusing. Dating when you’re young and relatively “unscarred” by life’s little disasters is much easier than dating when you’re healing from the destruction of divorce. Continue reading →

One of the things about being married for a number of years and then finding ourselves once again in the dating world is that it’s sometimes difficult to distinguish between the rules that have changed while we’ve been away from the game and the rules that remain the same. Continue reading →

Dating is difficult. It can be fun, it can be exciting, it can make you feel good about yourself. Dating can also be confusing and even deadly. It’s particularly intimidating when you’re the left behind spouse, the discarded husband or wife. Continue reading →

Learning to date again, and taking time to make the right choices, is all part of surviving divorce. Dating while you’re separated and waiting for the legalities to be over is not the time to seek commitment with someone else. Continue reading →

Taking any relationship slow and easy is the best approach. It’s not always easy as each person may be in a different stage of emotional growth or turmoil and their needs are different. One may be ready for a more intensive relationship or commitment, while the other person may only need someone to give them a hug and a kind word. Continue reading →

For the person who did not want their marriage to end, or who did everything in their power to keep the marriage together but ultimately ended up divorced, there are a mountain of emotions that must be worked through. Continue reading →

She asked for advice regarding a situation that surfaced between her and the man she was dating. She is divorced and on civil terms with her ex. An upcoming trip with her children that also included her ex was causing jealousy with the new man in her life. Continue reading →

Are you angry about the way your marriage ended? Does that anger show up in the conversations you have with people you meet, conversations that eventually turn to your divorce and a rehashing of the whys and what-went-wrongs? Do you even realize how much time you spend talking about the bad deal you got, or how much you wish your husband or wife would come back to you? Continue reading →

Newly divorced, you are raw and bleeding. You don’t understand what’s happening to you. You don’t have total control over your emotions. You aren’t ready to enter into a healthy, fulfilling, committed, relationship. You don’t know this because your judgement is cloudy and you are extremely needy. Continue reading →

For the person who is newly divorced, meeting a “soul mate” and falling in love quickly is not unusual. It is best to stay out of serious relationships until we’ve healed from the divorce, but it’s not always easy to do. Continue reading →