‘DENNIS NEDER’
Trouble in Break-Up City
Dr. Neder, my fianc? decided it was best to end our two year relationship about a month and a half ago. In this time I have realized why she did it and that she meant more to me than I ever knew. I made a lot of mistakes that I didn’t see until now.
Date Like a Model, Even if You’re Not One
Dr. Neder; I was just dropping by to ask a serious question about how to attract a very beautiful woman. I live in San Diego and there are a lot of beautiful women here, but I am very shy and there are times where I see women that are out of my league and wonder if just maybe? I was just wondering if there is something I could do to make them notice me and find me attractive even though I may not have model looks.
The Reality of “Being Friends”
Hi Doctor, I am getting to know a Christian girl. We have been going out for almost two months and I told her that I like her. In the beginning she told me that she was not interested in a relationship right now but was ok with being friends and she continues to go out with me. She answers my calls most of the time but when she doesn’t I become anxious and I start thinking too much. Please how can I deal with it?
Lying is Bad – Um-Kay?
Doc: I met my girlfriend online and we’ve been together for about 3 months (we’re both in our 30’s.) When we first started going out, I was dating another girl from online too. I was not attracted to this other girl romantically but thought she could be a friend. The problem is I lied to my girlfriend several times when I hung out with this other girl because I didn’t want my girlfriend to worry. I never crossed the line with this other girl.
Girls: Learn How To Say “Yes”!
Hello Dr. Neder: This guy in my class has been flirting with me all semester. When he first approached me I was reading on the grass. He introduced himself to me, mentioned that we were in class together and sat down and started talking to me. Some small talk (mostly him asking questions about myself) was followed by him inviting me to join him for coffee in the student center, but I declined because I didn’t know him that well nor did I know whether or not I liked him.
The Cowardice of “Taking Breaks”
Hey Doc! I’ve been going out with this girl for 3 months now after trying to get with her for about 7. Before we got together she said she didn’t want to date me because she loved me but “wasn’t in love with me”. She later said she was in love with me but still didn’t want to let her guard down.
How to NOT Impress Women With Gifts
Hi Doc! This girl I know casually through work invited me to a party. I am going to give her a nice perfume that costs about $100. Is that a good idea? She also said there will be lots of girls there. How do I start a conversation with a girl in a party and get her phone number? This is a big opportunity for me – please help!
Air-Sick Bag, Please!
Doc: I met a young lady on a matrimonial website and we hit it off very well. She had a prior relationship 3 years ago that she ended and admits to feeling guilty about as she sorta “strung the guy along” and did not verbalize her concerns regarding their relationship that she felt wasn’t everything she wanted.
Should I Get Married?
Dear Dennis: I have been with person for 5 years. We’re both 25. We’ve been engaged and living together for 2 years. He is very sweet, and kind, and treats me very well. We are very comfortable together, and I love him like a member of my family. He is always there for me when I need it.
Turn Her into a “Social Butterfly”
Hey Doc: I’ve been dating someone recently and am really starting to like her. Unfortunately due to our different work schedules we have been limited to what we do however my schedule has begun to open up a bit and I would like to spend more time with her.
After The Fight
Hello! I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years. We had a big fight a couple of weeks ago, and after that she doesn’t say “I love you” to me as much as she did before. We are acting the same as before the fight to each other but I just want her to say I love you to me as much as she did before. She says it when we hang out and stuff, but not when we are on the phone.
Which is Best – Same or Different?
Hey Doc: I have a question which might sound a bit unusual but; do relationships work best between people who are different or people who are similar?
The Older Woman
Hey Doc: I’m 21 years old and this girl that I’ve been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon. This girl has been really down on the dumps with personal problems, losing family members, etc. and we’ve been keeping each other “company” if you will.
My Boyfriend is a Loser!
I’m 27 and my boyfriend is 26, we’ve been going together for 7 years, but quite honestly the last few years have not been good and this summer I really started distancing myself from him.
Game-Playing Girlfriend
Hi Dr. Neder, I read some of your articles and your advice is great. I just recently hooked up with a girl that actually picked me up at club. She really liked me a lot and for the first few weeks, I played hard to get with her. She wanted to get me settled down and kind of coerced me into a relationship. Obviously, being someone that doesn’t like relationships I refused, but she tried and tried again, I finally submitted and became her boyfriend.